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Leah's avatar

A new reader here, mother of five. That was a beautiful read and, wow, such a difficult labor and birth! You endured so much with such strength.

I really appreciate your compassion and understanding for your husband: “But the father sometimes watches his wife tremble at the veil, and he feels helpless, as usually he is. That helpless feeling is typically what makes an event traumatic, instead of just challenging or very hard.”

This idea has shaped my expectation of my husband in my labor since my first pregnancy. I don’t often see it expressed so kindly, and if a father expresses trepidation to walk willingly into such helplessness, it is often downplayed as though he might be immature or uncaring. Thank you for putting it here.

God bless you.

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Melisa Capistrant's avatar

Wow. I've had 8 babies, with labors of varying intensity - but none quite like yours. You have been through a lot and I pray God will continue to heal you. Thank you for sharing your story. Blessings to you and yours!

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